Dating My friend’s Ex: Is it Right?

There is an aura that comes with hanging out with your friend’s boyfriend or girlfriend after they have broken-up. Sometimes it is like you are the worst person on earth. Some are of the opinion that once it is your friend’s ex it is beyond your reach for friendship sake. But is it wrong to date your friend’s ex?

For instance, after some years you met Charles who was dating Mary(your friend) and he decides he want to have lunch or dinner with you. What should you do? I know some clever ones would say the best idea is to inform Mary about it; what if she disapproves? Some worst case senario is when your friend’s ex broke up with him/her because of you and now is asking you out. Hmm.

The major reason for having a relationship is for happiness and companionship. People break-up in search for these two. Sometimes not knowing where to find it. Am sure you too would like to spend time with someone who gives you happiness and love. Some spend a life time searching for love.

It is not wrong to date someone who you know you will find love and happiness with even though it’s your friend’s ex. But it is wrong to deprive your friend of his/her own happiness for yours. I don’t think you will find happiness in you friend’s sadness. Don’t make a heartbreak “collabo” with your friend’s ex on him/her.

As freinds we are meant to be there for each other especially in trying times. If your  friend loves someone and they are challenged in their relationship the best you can do is to help them out and make peace. Disappear if you have to, so peace can reign.

However, some people are stingy and full of strife. They have broken up with someone and is currently moving on with someone else yet they are still not ready to let go. For instance, John was dating Juliet and they broke up and he is with Cynthia now, though he is not seeing Juliet anymore he wouldnt let someone else date Juliet.

In my advice, if you have found love with Juliet, I think you people should stay away from John for now. With time he will get used to it.

Love is a beautiful thing and it knows no bound. It is however good to create a good atmosphere around love with friends and loved ones, it helps it grow stronger.