Things We Do That Make Love Fade Away

Unwitting, many loves fades away if we don’t nurture and protect it. Love is like a baby: when it comes puts smiles on everyone’s face and keeps the smile for a while, not until peeing on pampers, cries in the middle of night, having to take the baby to work and baby sit. Now that’s no more fun. When love advances some loose the excitement in it and gradually the enthusiasm in it goes away, most times the love dies. But it doesn’t have to be that way; love can be exciting from the beginning and forever after. Unless off course, you people were not meant for each other (Hey! You never know). There are some acts that we begin to put up in a relationship that gradually endangers our love:

Less Communication: As far as am concerned, the lesser the communication the lesser the love. Once you start showing up in the midnight when she was asleep and show much tiredness all over your face; once you select what topic to talk about and ones not to; once there is no more chatting, no more gossiping, no more mocking and joking, then the love is heading to the rocks. Friends are best lovers, but I wonder what kind of friend you are when you don’t have anything to talk about.

Restricted Sex Life: May be you have realized that sex is not the only thing that keeps a relationship going, so you have decided to set it aside a little and allow other things to come in. You make a big mistake! True that sex is not all there is in a relationship, but it is to relationship what blood is to human body. If it is there the relationship stays vibrant and healthy, else it is fickle and prone to illness.

Secrets: This is one thing I know that kills a relationship silently without people even knowing it. By my definition is Heart Break is the “knowledge of the unknown”.  When you have something that you believe might hurt your partner and for some reason you think he/she shouldn’t hear it, you better be good at hiding it forever, else please tell let it out before it’s too late.

Too Much Friends: you need to understand that it is good to have friends but not in the excess. As much friends that you make is as much enemies that you make as well. Friends watch your back, some hit your back. Too much friends in your affairs will distract you from the love. Select friends that respect your love and stick to them. The ones that will look out to see if things are done appropriately and make sure it is corrected the right way.

Complains: Excess complains and faulting of your partner will have them thinking it is either you are too good for him/her or you don’t just like him/her. If you must make a correction, do so constructively and positively. Don’t impose your ideas on your partner and expect them to take it as though it is theirs.

Neglect of Responsibilities: For the men, you stop paying the bills, and the women, you stop doing the dishes. Because you were aided one time doesn’t mean it has become their responsibility, it still yours stand up to it. If you can help to achieve each others responsibilities fine, don’t be mean about it.

Unfaithfulness: Am sure we all know this, that’s why it’s not the first on the list. If you don’t please now you know. Don’t cheat on your partner and expect to come home welcomed with opened arms. Unfaithfulness steals the joy of the home keeps it outside. The fun you had outside may be hard to reciprocate in your home.

There may be other things in your own view that may be the problem, i believe the above given tips is related to them in one way or the other. If you concentrate on these you will be making an impact on your relationship.