IS SHE FAITHFUL TO ME? HOW TO KNOW IF YOUR SPOUSE IS FAITHFUL TO YOU

Love is a voluntary act. If it is love it is not inspired by an unprecedented influence on any part. Love is genuine if it is free. Based on this fact it is important in a relationship to give and receive love freely. However, heartbreak can emanate from the act of giving freedom to a partner. If your spouse is free (which is a necessity) how do you know he/she is not cheating on you?

Some easy checks for infidelity still remains:

·        Monitoring of phone calls, text messages, and other social media applications, like facebook, whatsapp, BBM, etc.

·        Unannounced visitations to your partner’s house to monitor suspected visits.

·        Hiring of investigators to monitor your partner daily and report to you.

However, these are not the ideal moves to make when dealing with someone you love and intend to keep, because for some, if you are caught doing such it might lead to the end of the relationship. Also I can assure you that if you have resorted to hiring of investigators to monitor your partner then no need continuing with the relationship because you are way out of the line.

“So how do you I know my partner is faithful to me?!”

To answer this question one must know that the approach is relative to relationships. The way A would check for fidelity is quite different from the way B will. However, one thing to be sure of is: the trace starts from the beginning of the relationship. Here are a few tips to use and know when you are being cheated on:

Check Commitments: If when the relationship started you people had different commitments and routine that you kept to, this is the time to check which one he/she is omitting and why. If your partner called once a day or more, and suddenly called once in two days find outwhy. If he kissed you once there was a meeting, then decided it wasn't okay anymore find out why.

Keep Communication Strong: Maintain a regular communication pattern. Stick to it. However, don't make it boring. Just be keen about it. Good communication allows you to air your views from time to time; say something about your activities daily; and maintain a closer relationship. If someone is lying, with a committedcommunication he/she will soon tell or reveal the truth.

Ask Questions: Where are you? What are you doing? When will you be back? All these are safer ways to check situations than intruding into privacy. Also ask question like: "do you still love me? Are you seeing someone else? Are you happy?" Especially when your heart is pricking you on the matter.

Extend Communication: If your partner has close friends or family members extend your communication to them. If they know something they might not tell you all of it, but a tip-off will save you the stress. However, don't go asking around: "Is he seeing someone?"It's abusive and more of accusation. Just maintain close communication with them and listen when they talk.

Tell your findings: considering the options given so far you might find out things are amiss. Please don't keep it to yourself, tell him/her. Aside the fact that you will find out if he/she is cheating, you also get to save yourself some heartaches.

Basically, all hand points to communication. If you have a good communication style with your spouse, you have a way of saving yourself in the relationship. However, some situations are severe and need thorough investigations, if you find yourself in harsh situations, may be you are being frauded, used, or setup, please use the police.